A Man's Place

Ever since the snake showed up in the Garden of Eden, a man’s role as husband and father has been under attack, intentionally confused and disrupted by an enemy who understands that if this role is upended, the family will suffer greatly. This certainly explains why so many fathers in today’s culture are an absent figure in the family. Even among those who are physically present, many fathers have become emotionally disengaged; generations that follow have become understandably perplexed by the desperately needed role of a man in the home.

This sad truth is illustrated by a story often shared in prison ministries. One year, a group decided to provide cards for inmates on Mother’s Day. The response was overwhelming, as nearly all the inmates showed up to sign and send cards to their mothers. The event was so successful that the group decided to do it again on Father’s Day.

Almost no one participated.

Unlike any other source, God’s Word provides distinct instruction as to the role of a husband and father. As we celebrate the important role of men in the family today, it is good for us to look to the Apostle Peter’s words regarding God’s design and desire for Dads. In 1 Peter 3:7, he writes, “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” While this passage does not use the term “father” specifically, Peter was certainly laying the foundation for a man’s role in the home, first as husband, then as father. In this one verse, he offers a picture of just what the man’s role in the family is to be.

1. He is provider.

The following correspondence between a son and father offers an example of this responsibility.

Dear Dad, $chool i$ really great. I am making lot$ of friend$ and $tudying very hard. With all my $tuff, I $imply can't think of anything I need, $o if you would like, you can ju$t $end me a card, a$ I would love to hear from you. Love, Your $on Dear Son, I kNOw that astroNOmy, ecoNOmics, and oceaNOgraphy are eNOugh to keep even an hoNOr student busy. Do NOt forget that the pursuit of kNOwledge is a NOble task, and you can never study eNOugh. Dad

Certainly, it is the role of fathers to provide financially for the well-being of their families. However, there is much more provision required than this. Husbands and fathers need to be present. Both quality and quantity of time is necessary. In fact, more than the family needs stuff from Dad, the family instead needs Dad! Fathers, don’t spend the most informative years of your children’s lives by giving your best energy to your career. Communicate with your children. Allow yourself many moments of laughter with them. Be fully engaged in the life of your family. God will meet the needs of your wife and children through you.

2. He is protector.

Peter’s mention of the wife as “weaker” is not a diminutive term. Rather, it is speaking to roles in the home. Men are to courageously and vigorously protect their families. There are so many forces working to pull the family apart, not to mention the intentional scheme of Satan to destroy the home. We must set aside any practice that distracts our attention from protecting our wives and children. They must see an unflinching passion within us for integrity and faithfulness. Unquestionably, the best manner in which a father can love his children is by loving their mother and his wife. This will build a wall around the family that will not be easily plundered.

3. He is priest.

While most men may not have attempted to earn a theological degree, Peter states that the husband and father is the priest of the family. It is the prayers from his lips that are so needed by his wife and children. In the home, fathers should be leading family devotional times. Fathers should be leading in prayer. Fathers should be studying their bibles. Fathers should be taking (not dropping off) their families to church. Wives and children should undeniably know that Dad is the spiritual leader of the home and that His personal relationship to Jesus Christ is his greatest passion and pursuit.

Our current culture makes too little of the role of men. Husbands and fathers are viewed as expendable. However, this is not God’s estimation. Our Heavenly Father is Provider, Protector, and Priest, particularly in the sending of His Son. Men are called to emulate His example and be empowered by His presence. May we be found faithful!

Happy Father’s Day,

Jason